Monday, August 9, 2010

Exchanging one Bedtime Battle for Another

This weekend had its share of sweet spots and sour patches.

On the sweet side:
We had dinner every night with our besties.  Friday night we ate at Buffalo Wild Wings, Saturday night we grilled out at the casa, and on Sunday night we had pizza and celebrated Baby Abby's 1st birthday which is rapidly approaching.  We didn't plan it that way, but I guess that's what happens when you have friends that are pretty much your family.  The party was a blast, and I'm so glad that we all had the opportunity to celebrate one blessed little girl.

Also on the sweet side, on our way home from BWW, Hubs pulled up next to us in his truck.  He rolled down the window so that Cam could see him, and she waved.  When he drove ahead of us, I said, "Isn't Daddy the most handsome daddy in the world?"  Her response, "Yes, and I'm going to marry daddy one day."  I had tears in my eyes when I recounted the conversation for Hubs later that evening.  Seriously, the sweetest thing ever!

We also did a little IKEA'ing this weekend and picked up some stuff for the kiddos, and a few rugs for the casa.  Camdyn loved the kids room there, and we got out of dodge for the day. 

On the sour side:
We were supposed to go to Busch Gardens on Saturday, but Chloe had a fever on Friday night and woke up with a fever on Saturday.  Going to theme parks with kids who aren't a 100% is the furthest thing away from fun, so we scrapped that plan and went to IKEA instead.  First, however, I took Chloe to the doctor.  She didn't have a fever according to the nurse, an hour after I determined that she had a fever.  Ugh.  Her ears are good, her throat is good, she's fine.  They must think I'm nuts bringing in kids that are healthy all the time.  FRUSTRATING! 

Also, on the sour side it rained pretty much all weekend....great for sleeping, not so much for shopping, swimming, or doing anything outdoors.  Camdyn kept telling me the rain was boring and that the rain was making her bored.  Me too, sweetie, me too.

On the bedtime front:
I am over the moon ecstatic with Camdyn's progress!  On Friday night we went to Target and she had her little heart set on two little Dinosaur Train toys.  They were cute and inexpensive, so I bought them for her, but made sure that she understood that she could open one tomorrow if she went to bed on time tonight.  On Friday night, she did it, and we didn't even have to shut her door.  I figured the toy really motivated her.

On Saturday night, the same thing, because she wants to open the other Dinosaur toy.  She went to bed on time.  Sweet success, but not really, because we motivated her with a toy.

On Sunday, (all out of toys), she went to bed at 8:22, and never once came out of her bedroom!  I am now ready to declare VICTORY!  ::happy dance happy dance::  So, even if she relapses and has issues in the next few weeks, at least I know what will work, and I'll go back to the drastic door closing measures if I have to.

So, if you are still engaged and coherent after reading all of that, you may be wondering what bedtime battle we exchanged for. 

Bellieboo now has sleep issues.  They come in the form of waking up screaming at approximately 11:30 every night.  I'm talking rolling around her crib, screaming at the top of her lungs like her room is on fire, screaming.  So, I go to her, because it freaks me out.  I pick her up but she pushes against me and doesn't want to be held, doesn't want milk, or a binky either.  Clueless and concerned, I bring her out of her room, and lay her on the living room floor, where she thrashes around, and continues to scream.  Is this a temper tantrum in the middle of the night?  Then, out of no where, she kinda snaps out of it and she says "nigh nigh" and follows me to her bedroom and then sleeps peacefully until daybreak.  What is this about!?!  I've never seen anything like this before.  Her pediatrician believes she is having night terrors.  Really?  At 16 months old?  So, I'll be googling that now to figure out how I can help her.  She's completely inconsolable in this state and sometimes I've even taken her out of the house in the middle of the night to snap her out of it.  It makes me feel powerless, kinda like how you feel when baby is a newborn and you have no idea how to stop the crying and make it all better...yeah, like that, and it sucks.

So, if it's not one then it's the other, but at least I am getting 2 hours of uninterrupted adult time in the evenings.  Ahhh, bliss.

Happy Monday!

9 comments:

Bridgette said...

Totally night terrors...Spencer had them. All you can do is stay with them until they snap out of it...no amount of comfort will work...it's scary & sucks but they have them less & less as they get older. Spencer rarely has one anymore (knock on wood)! The good news is...they go right back to sleep & never even remember what happened :) It will get better.

Liz said...

So I've come to the conclusion that we totally should just live together. LOL. We enjoyed the time spent with you guys this weekend, live always. The kids were great, food was good, and we love your company!

I didn't realize that Chloe was like this when she wakes up. I'm sure hoping it gets better for you. That must be such a scary feeling. :(

toriebartee said...

That is the sweetest thing ever. I would tear up too! So cute! Darn for not going to Busch Gardens. We haven't been in a while and need to go soon! We have annual passes.

Heather said...

Do night terrors happen because the kid isn't getting enough sleep, thus making the body go into "deep sleep" (which is when night terrors occur)? I always get confused between night terrors and nightmares. I think they're night terrors if the kid doesn't really remember them in the morning. But again, I could be confused.

That is so scary either way. Hope bedtime gets better soon!

Liza said...

I love the marry the daddy thing! As for the night terrors, before I even read that your pediatrician said that's what they were, that's what I figured because I had them. I called my mom to ask about her experience with me. She said I was about 2. She said there wasn't much to do, they just let me go - tried to hug me, but I didn't know who they were. They said I just grew out of it. I'm sorry there's not much more to do!

LeeAnn said...

It definitely sounds like she is having night terrors. Poor Chloe. They are so scary! Rylie used to have them too. They say you're not even supposed to pick them up but I always did. I couldn't help it. The ONLY thing that helped Rylie was not to have any TV on about an hour or so before she went to bed. We made it a rule that once we eat dinner, no more TV. If the TV happened to be on one night, she would have a night terror. Even now if she comes downstairs after her bath and the TV is on, she will tell you to turn it off.

On the flip side, though, congratulations on the progress made with Camdyn! That is great! Sometimes it doesn't hurt to reward kids when you're trying to train them to do something, and in your case, it sounds like it worked wonders.

Colleen (Shibley Smiles) said...

Sounds like a pretty fun weekend. Too bad you missed Busch Gardens I have been wanting to take the kids for the last couple of years. I think it is cute about the “marrying Daddy”. My daughter asked me once who she was suppose to marry if she can’t marry her brothers or her daddy?

Uninterrupted adult time sounds heavenly. I’m so jealous, but I have no one to blame but myself because I haven’t “made” the kids go to bed. They don’t need my attention as much but they can drive me crazy asking me to do this and that.

The night terror thing sucks. I would definitely google that and see what you can do. The doctor didn’t have any advice for you at all?

Jennifer said...

If it is not one thing, it is another...so true!! Sounds like night terrors to me. My pediatrician always told me not to try to wake them from it. I know that is hard. But they do snap out of it and usually do not remember it the next morning (unfortunately you can't ask a 16 mo. old). It will get better :)

Eastlyn and co. said...

Congrats on the Camdyn bedtime success story. The phrase "whatever means necessary" comes to mind. Sorry to hear about Belliboo's difficulties. That would really be scary. I can see how you'd feel helpless in the "night terror" situation. Sounds like others have good advice for you on the matter. Was chatting with a mom at dance class just last week who said if the terrors occur at the same time, try waking the child about 30 minutes before the time the terror usually happens. Not sure what to do after that, but maybe you'll find more info when you google. Keep us posted. -EW