I lay awake in my bed on Thursday night, the clock says 3:38 am, this post tumbling around in my head like wet towels in a dryer. I have words that must be said. I have a story that must be told. This is my therapy, it's cheap, it's cathartic.
And that's what the papers will say.
It's been six months since my world fell apart. The rug of routine, stability, and contentment, swept right out from underneath me. In those six months I've spent hours looking in the mirror, reflecting on what my role was in this marital apocalypse and then I spent months making changes.
Changing me for the better. Changing me for the happier, but all the while something was amiss. I felt it in my heart, like a piece of apple skin stuck between your teeth, I just couldn't quite get at it.
And then it became crystal clear.
I gave it my everything. I forgave him the 7th commandment. I opened my heart, swallowed my dignity, set aside my self-esteem, self-worth, and my own needs, all the while staying true to who I am and what I believe in. My values never change. And I tried. I fought. I loved him through it. And I was mostly successful at finding my smile on a daily basis.
The trick, friends, is not to put your key to happiness in someone Else's pocket.
He no longer holds my key.
There is power and peace in that.
And this is my comfort.
There have been many dark hours for me over the last six months and there may be more to come.
But, HE is with me. He will hold my hand through the ups and downs and challenges that await me. I am ready for that. HE wraps his arms around me and covers me with grace and mercy. This is my story and my journey and I'm not going to spend one more minute digging my heels in the sand against it. I have accepted it.
This morning my left ring finger is empty. It feels odd. Naked.
But, on my right ring finger, there sits a ring. Sterling & turquoise and passed down to me by my Momma. It was a ring my father bought her back in their glory days. It has a history and is part of their story...but to me, it represents the strength of a single mom. Those years were hard on her I'm sure, but those years were happy. I had a great childhood and my children will too.
This is my road. And I will walk it.
I am NOT irretrievably Broken.
To Every Parent With a Spirited Child
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